2010-02-15 - Parental Lessons from David
The Good, the Bad, and the Godly, Part 3
Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the ornamented robe she was wearing. She put her hand on her head and went away, weeping aloud as she went. (2 Samuel 13:19)
Where was God when Tamar needed her? He knew this was going to happen. He could have warned her. She was the one left with the pain, remorse, and a bleak existence. Her half-brother Absalom was the only one in the family that did something about her disgrace. Her father, David, was mad about Amnon's actions - and yet he did not do anything to make things right.
Tamar told Amnon no. He didn't listen. She tried to make him reconsider. Rage took over him. Tamar couldn't hold him back. He was too strong, and unfortunately, Amnon took advantage of his half-sister. Once he was finished with Tamar, Amnon sent her away. Tamar's life was totally altered, due to someone else's selfish desire. She went to live with her brother Absalom; a more accurate description was she existed. Tamar became a desolate woman. It took two years, but vengeance was finally hers.
Retaliation came at a high price. Absalom took matters into his own hands, had Amnon killed, and began a life on the run.
When Tamar needed family support and understanding the most, her father David did not offer any. When we are in the midst of pain and ridicule, our Heavenly Father provides comfort. He can be our comforter when we call out to Him.
As Psalm 145:17-18 promises, "The LORD is righteous in all his ways and loving toward all he has made. The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth."
Lord, Instead of me taking matters into my own hands, help me to wait for You to act in my behalf. Please Father, do not make me wait too long. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.